THE WINDOW AND THE MIRROR
I, personally, look at the world and see many beautiful things, no doubt about it. But obviously there are things that must be out of place. For instance, many people suicide every day. Some people have suicided yesterday. There are many theories about it, but I think that we can say with no fear of being wrong that this people were dealing with some kind of feeling of failure.
Yes, many people fail every day, fail in things like work, social life, love… And what is the face that we, the mankind, show to the people that are feeling like they are a failure? We are obsessed with success, aren’t we? Can we say that, for the people who fail, the world shows a face of comprehension, compassion and mercy? Or is it a hard face, like the face of a relentless creditor?
I picture myself walking through the big bookstore of our culture and stop a little in the department of books that promise success. Don’t get me wrong, I know there are people who write good books, offering creative tools and considering the complexity of the human situation. I’m talking about the books, videos and talks – unfortunately the bigger part – that paint a simplistic vision of the world, dividing the world between people who have and people who don’t have success, and selling the idea that the people who have success are always better in character.
Then I think that mankind must have some kind of double personality. I’ll explain.
If you do believe that the people who have success are always the best, then you are preaching that this world is in fact just. Yes, if you believe that, then there is no real injustice. Or maybe you think that there are some injustices but all you have to do is try a little harder and everything will for sure be solved. Well, think with me, in this case the little injustices are not really injustices, they are just some test, and the world is still fair, after all who makes it right will never lose in the end. It seems that there are a lot of people profiting selling this idea of perfect world…
Then I go to other department of the bookstore and see another face, another personality of the human being. Another vision, a vision that this world can really be unfair. Think with me, how many of our books, movies and even songs talk about really unfair situations, bitter injustices, people victim of situations they couldn’t control, situation where the people who were actually right were not the ones who looked good in the picture?
And I think: do we like these stories because they are very crazy stories, stories that happen in a world of fantasy that have nothing to do with reality? Or maybe is it because deep inside we agree that this world can sometimes be very unjust indeed?
So I think we could reassess certain things, try to put these two visions face to face, and avoid to commit one more injustice, the injustice of saying that injustice doesn’t exist.
Because it’s one thing to say: “I was able to build my home with nothing more than honest work and effort.” Right, you are right to feel good about that and your kids can be proud of you. But it’s another thing to say: “People who couldn’t make didn’t try hard enough, they had no character or fiber”. Because now you are judging the others.
When you say something like that it’s like you were holding the whole world in your hands and making a final judgement. Imagine that your voice goes traveling the world with your sentence. What if it meets someone that was victim of a plot, of a slander that wasn’t disproved? Someone that made a mistake and repented, but, no matter how he tried to fix the things he was never forgiven by society, including by people that made worst mistake but didn’t fall. O someone who was very competent in an area but couldn’t get a job, because the latest trend on business management was to hire only people who have great communication skills and in this area, this only area, that person couldn’t be better than the others no matter how she tried.
Or someone who believed the market of colleges and invested all she had in qualification for a profession, but in the end this profession wasn’t so requested as to employ all the crowd that was drawn by the marketing… Someone who suffered a fall that anyone could suffer, but couldn’t overcome it because of the pressure of an uncomprehending family or a merciless bank, or both? Someone with a feature that aroused society’s prejudice and who couldn’t hold the indignation long enough to win? Someone who lost everything for trusting too much on someone? Can it be that you have been through all the problems in the world? And the ones you haven’t been through, you know for sure that they could never overthrow you? Can’t there be people going through troubles you don’t even imagine that exist? People willing, but imperfect, in an imperfect world? There can be a child crying from hunger in front a father that really did all he could…
We have to remember that everybody makes mistakes, but some get more “second chances” than the others, so it isn’t the same for everybody. This should make us more tolerant. Encourage someone to try hard can be good, but that is different from go around judging.
We are sometimes led to believe in certain things by people who want to sell a too simplistic world view. But we must think well if we are not being unjust. I think the fear of being unjust is maybe the most noble of fears, and I believe we should raise our children with this fear…
If someone is glad for having built a decent life with work and endeavor, and because he’s kids admire him, would it hurt so much to admit that in some particular point in time he may have been bestowed more favorable conditions than someone else, without been necessarily better? The modern world wants us to be admiring ourselves in front of the mirror, but nobody who thinks he is perfect can have real empathy for the others.
THE RULER
I am writing these texts with one thing in mind: hope. That’s not incompatible at all with the fact that I criticize a lot. If we know we need hope, it’s because we know things are not going so well. If everything was fine, we wouldn’t need hope so much. I have a lot of hope and, like everybody who has hope in the future, I know a lot of things depend in the young people. That’s something that everybody seems to agree with.
But then a question comes to my mind: Do we want the young people to be extremely competent in playing the game of the world with the rules that we have now, or do we want them to change this game? I mean, do we believe that the world’s machine that is here was very well designed, we just need the “bums” to work more, or do we need to change this machine? Do we only need to end the deviations, like crime and “vagrancy”, and increase efficiency, or do we believe that the world indeed lies in evil and we need to change the system?
Because the system that’s there is based on quantity and, being so, I think it’s doing very well, thank you. Deviations aside, the cities grow up to the skies, zillions of ships cross the seas crammed with products, the financial roulettes make new millionaires every day and so on. Quantity is going well. I think we need to rethink “how” this world works. And that’s where young people are so important. To rethink things, without destroying democracy, law or things like that, with no authoritarian or violent illusions, but rethink how the world works.
And then the question of freedom comes on the scene: Do we give freedom to the young people to rethink what can be changed or do we simply do our best to fit them in the system that’s there?
It seems to me that the young, like the rest of the people, are always measured with the world’s ruler, as if the rewards that the world gives, would define the value of this person.
Even in television commercials we see the idea that the world needs people who think different and etc, but the message that is transmitted is always the message that there are big rewards waiting for these people who think “different”. And then comes the question: Is the world really always inclined to reward who thinks really different?
It always comes to our minds the image of someone who created a great and very innovative invention. Well, these stories are interesting, but is the change we need made only of big inventions?
I think we also need, and a lot, other changes, sometimes small, at a local level. Changing of attitude towards things, changing in the way we consume, in the way we see commerce, the work relations and so on. Changes in the way we see life, having different goals than the traditional ideas of success. And these changes, in general, have no guarantee that they will be rewarded. At least in the short term.
There is a system – I think the definition of “system” is a set of parts that work together as a mechanism – and the tendency is to have a certain stagnation. This system even includes people that achieved a lot of success selling speeches defending precisely the way the things work. We can’t count with any guarantee of rewards for people who want to see things in a different way, specially having goals that are different of the “standard”.
Don’t get me wrong. Off course I’m not automatically against anyone that has received an award of anything like that, I just don’t take that in so much consideration as people use to. I don’t agree that should be the ruler used to measure people. Not a bit. If we measure people with the ruler of the rewards the world gives to them, how are we going to change the world?
And I think that this expectation for the world’s rewards has been causing so much pain all around... Starting, off course, with young people. A lot of people say “we shouldn’t raise our kids for us, but for the world”. Right, but what world? Should we look for a total adaptation of the young? Does it mean that if the world is full of assholes, then I must be an asshole with my kid so he gets used to it?
In countries like mine, where the education has serious problems, many people use to praise the countries where the education is extremely rigid and extremely demanding. I don’t know many countries personally, but I think all countries must have something to contribute with the world. But in these places with extremely demanding education, where the expectation over the young people is extremely high, the rates of suicide among young people tend to be very high too. To me, anything that leads boys and girls to suicide can’t be right.
“We must expect a lot from young people”. Expect what? That he becomes like the billionaire in the magazine. Maybe he even does some charity, but the amount of books sold about him is straightly related to the money he accumulated, isn’t it?
An example of how we measure things based on worldly success is our concept of “intelligence”. We focus a lot on what we call intelligence, we want the kids to be “intelligent”. But what we nowadays call intelligence, the ability to solve more abstract logic operations and memorize data, is a talent, like any other. To me the real “intelligence” is to see things clearly, see life and the world in a clearer way. We usually call it “wisdom” and put it in some corner.
“Wisdom” is what old and cute characters have in the movies, when they give advice to the young. “Intelligence” is seen like some kind of strength, while “wisdom” is seen as something cute, something that hovers in the air and happens almost naturally as people get old.
I think that in fact wisdom is hard to
achieve, it demands effort to be acquired, and you must be seeking it. People
focus on “intelligence” and expect it from the young, maybe because it brings
more advantages in today’s world. We can't let that, because of the name, intelligence tests make us think of a superior race of human beings.
Of course this talent we call “intelligence” is good, like any other talent, but shouldn’t the intelligence of seeing things clearly be in the foreground when we think of what is needed to build a better world?
So, my friend, I think we must think well about the world we want to build and how are we going to build it. If we know we don’t have all the answers, we must give some freedom so the people can rethink the things.
Off course I’m not saying the parents don’t have the responsibility to help the sons and daughters with their choices and values, but that is different than forcing someone to get into a tunnel that other people built and we don’t even know where it’s going to end.
Some people seem to think the younger are always wrong. Like the people who, when they see someone doing something wrong, immediately start saying the cause was the lack of a good spanking. How can this people be so sure that there aren’t many people around doing wrong things because they suffered violence, physical and psychological? I think that’s more likely. Sometimes, even people that are against committing violence force each other to fit in pre-established molds? Even with good intentions, we can be taking from each other the freedom of thought we once had as children.
If of the children is the Kingdom of Heaven, is because the children naturally have some qualities that we ourselves need, and so we have something to learn from them, we don’t have to be in such a hurry to force them to be like us.
Neither am I saying, off course, that the younger are always right and the older wrong. That would be insane. It can seem like a paradox: we know the children have something special, but we also know we can’t disdain the experience of the older. Well, I respect experience, but the ones who get to an advanced age with the spirit still free, are the ones who better know how to process their experience to create or transmit something good, and those I in no way consider “old”.
And I think that it is precisely the wisdom that mankind have, the good part of the accumulated knowledge, that the children absorb better than anyone else, with they’re respected in their own way of being.
What is the better thing we can teach to a child? I believe it’s the ideals. A child, better than anyone, can receive, with an open heart, ideas like “honesty”, “solidarity”, “gratitude”, “friendship”, etc. Because she wasn’t yet contaminated by the world, she is able to believe in these things a hundred percent. To believe in goodness, with no “but”. Later she will face the world and it’s difficulties, but, even if she gets out of the track, if she has ideals, it is as like she always had an angel in her shoulder, always had a place to come back to.
If we believe in someone, we give a vote of confidence, we don’t take the freedom from this person. I believe we must not measure a human being with the ruler of the world’s prizes. We can’t deny that there is, all around us, a “scale” that measures people based in their success, a pre-determined ideal of success.
With ideals and freedom of spirit, a young person can think for himself, not despising the experience, but also not necessarily accepting all that is there, but reclining the head in the chair, “moving away” a little from the world in his imagination, to reflect about what he learned in his life and with the older and imagine how it “could be”, without fear.
And to dream, because there are many good dreams. But the expectation for the rewards of the world can set us apart from the good side of our dreams.
WHAT ARE WEBS MADE OF
When we have the habit of thinking a lot about the world, trying to detect the problems and imagine what could be changed, we sometimes stumble on a certain kind of idea that can seem like exaggeration to some people. For example, when it seems to us that there are a lot of people who don’t want that people learn more, they don’t want people to have more knowledge. Someone can come and say “This is madness, you are imagining conspiracies. Maybe you’ve been watching too many movies”. You know.
It is fact that if you go trying to understand all the thousand possible secret webs, all the imaginable tricks, you can even go crazy – literally. How could you understand all the connections of such a complex world, specially the connections that they are most trying to hide from you? And many who offer the hidden “truth” of the conspiracies, on internet or something like that, end up offering you hate against another tribe. A tribe made of people like you who are at the mercy of the same winds as you. You must be careful not to lose your head.
On the other hand, to imagine that the connections don’t exist is kind of weird. You can imagine that this is a world where the countless events that occur at every instant are not interconnected, that the world is just a lot of people, each one for himself, trying to seek the best for himself and that all that added up don’t for a system that works in a certain direction, a direction determined by people on the top, but I don’t think that’s very likely, because of the world’s own logic.
There are people who don’t like the word system, but as I said, I think a system can be defined as a set of pieces that work together for a common end. I think this happens naturally in the world, with or without secret societies, with or without secret little rooms where people gather in the dark, with or without secret papers secretly sent to a group of people with the secret orders of the week. I can’t affirm if those things exist or not, so I solved the whole thing in my head in another way, understanding that, with or without those things, a system is naturally formed.
People have goals. And, to achieve these goals, it’s better to enlist other people to work in the same direction as you. You can do it in an honest way, but a little bit of bribery, chantage, deceit, etc, help even more. In this world, the easiest path is never the path of virtue. If virtue was the easiest path for man to achieve what he wishes, we wouldn’t need so many laws and so much preoccupation about moral values, right?
And what’s most interesting is that to do certain “schemes” you don’t always have to break human law. Not that it is not broken, and a lot. Sometimes a big company even have in their budget a certain amount of money just to spend on trials and things like that. It’s part of their day-to-day. But what I mean is that even without breaking the law, schemes can happen. For example, there are laws that are supposed to prevent competing companies to match prices and so on, because that would be bad for the consumer. But how to prevent it totally?
I’m gonna make an illustration. Imagine you call two people for a challenge. They must get into a room where there is a dog with eight little balls tied to his collar. You tell each one of them that, if she comes back with four little balls, she earns a thousand dollars. Each one listens to the other one’s goal. The dog will try to escape. The only rule is that they can’t say a single word one to another. They get into the room. Even without opening their mouth, isn’t it natural that they end up working together?
That’s what happens when people have common goals. You don’t always have to talk a lot. It’s what we call tacit agreement, agreements that weren’t declared, but the parties know they exist.
If we think well, bribery can also be implicit. Someone can make a decision he knows it’s not the most ethical because it benefits a person who helped, or is helping, him. Chantage too, when someone knows that if he makes a certain decision, that he thinks is the right one, he can be seriously harmed by other people, even if no one says a word. And so on...
Thus, a web gradually takes shape. All it takes that many people know more or less how the things work. Some knowing more and others less, but everybody looking for their own benefit. If it is possible to take an easier way and the world’s biggest value is greed, many people will take this way. With or without secret messages, greed itself spins it’s webs. And the higher a person’s position is, more people will try to please this person, so greater is the person’s power of influence. So, the web that takes shape will tend to work to the interest of who is higher. It’s unpleasant, but nothing unreal.
These things can manifest in many ways... For example, the power that the international financial system has over the countries. Many countries, like Brazil, prophesy their future based on the intention that the foreign capital have or not to invest here. So, is it an exaggeration to imagine that certain people use this power to influence the political destiny of countries?
We have to think rationally: first, is it possible to use this power in this certain way? Second, if it’s possible, would there be great advantages? Third, if it’s possible and there are advantages, the human beings with this capacity would do it or not?
I mean, do we think certain things don’t happen because it’s impossible or because we trust in the ethics of the people who could do these things? Because, if in the world of greed there are advantages to people who have the ethics a little more loose, how can we trust? They say crime doesn’t pay. Yes, but that in the long term, and sometimes the “doesn’t pay” applies only to the personal life of the individual, that can become rich and unhappy. But the world of human power seems to be ruled by momentary decision that aim only the material side...
Well, what I am saying is that the point is not necessarily understand the level of organization of this system, in the sense of knowing how much these people communicate with each other to make plans. What I’m trying to show is the simple fact that, if money is the higher value, it is inevitable the formation of a system that will tend to defend the interests of the small group of people that have more power. That is, it’s not madness to imagine that there is something behind the appearances.
Now, it does seem crazy to me, to want to fight this system taking the horse reins by force and creating another system, that control in detail what people do. You would just create an even worst situation. Mankind should know this at this point in History. So, if we can’t fight this system with the same weapons, nor by force, not even try to understand all the secret webs, what is left for us to do?
That’s when comes to the scene what I said back there: the greed system is formed because greed is the highest value in this world. The webs are formed when people share a same value. Thus, what each of us can do is to pay attention to the values that rule the relations around us, and mainly in the values that rule our own decisions.
Not ceasing to pay attention to what happens in a global level, but knowing that the world is made of people and it is only going to change when people and their relations change. It can seem a naivety of mine to finish this chapter this way, but I have no other idea to offer. And I don’t think it’s an illusion. This is really a world made of people and a lot of things can change when better intentions go spreading, undoing the old webs, starting from wherever it starts from, and creating other kinds of webs.


